Not a single day goes by that I don’t receive a flattering
comment on one of my YouTube videos from a someone
who appreciates the things I talk about.
Honestly, one of the main reasons why I create videos and
write blog posts is because I love to hear how my ideas have
supported you in some way. — It feels good.
I appreciate YOU as much as you might appreciate me :)
Often, the person who shows his appreciation by leaving me
a comment will say, “I love you Elliott…”
To me this is great to hear. It’s nice to be loved… by anyone.
But it’s strange that after showing me some love, he might
follow up the sentiment with “…no homo.”
Basically assuring me that he although he loves me…
…hes not interested in having sex with me.
Here is something that you might not know…
In the ancient Greek translation there are four meanings for the
Storge, Pilia, Eros and Agape.
In the Greek language, love is not just about wanting to
“bone” someone (although there is a word for that).
“Storge Love” is simply fondness or familiarity. This is the good
feelings you have towards people you know.
“Philia Love” is a strong bond you have with someone. You might
feel this towards your best friend.
“Eros Love” is the romantic feelings you might have for someone.
This is the kind of love that might make you want to have sex.
“Agape Love” is unconditional love. It’s a sort of commitment
to someone regardless of circumstances. You might feel this
towards an alcoholic family member, etc.
When I read books by men I admire, guys like Alexander
Lowen or Ralph Waldo Emerson…
…I sometimes become gitty and excited with love towards
them. I am in love with the way these men express themselves
in the world.
I love them.
But it’s more of a “storge” or “philia” love… instead of “eros”.
These guys are dead… so if by some weird chance I did get
to meet them I would give them a big hug and show my
appreciation to them…
…but there would be no need for me to remind them that I’m
not going to make sexual advances.
Men are allowed to love other men.
But we’ve become so afraid of one another, and so scared
by anything that might be confused for sex… that we find it
necessary to put up walls even when we’d like to show love.
Of course, “no homo” is just a funny way to conclude a
simple show of affection.
But even in our jokes there is a thread of anxiety.
There is a tiny part of us feels there is a thread of truth
in the joke (thats what makes good jokes funny).
So, the bottom line is this…
…I love serving you with my videos & newsletter.
…I love answering your questions.
And I expect that some people might love me back,
and it feels good when you tell me.
But don’t worry… I’m not squeezing my butt cheeks
tight when you reach out to me.
And even if you are homosexual, I’m not too worried
about getting butt-raped by you.
And I’m not worried that if I hug you, and show love
back… that we might accidentally have sex.
Now give me a BIG HUG ;)
Grow Stronger (and love),