No Sympathy For Fat Kids!

People often say that I need to be more compassionate.

Sure, compassion is a wonderful virtue and it helps you relate to
the struggles of other people…

…but I just don’t get it.

Since I never feel sorry for myself no matter how hard things get,
I just can’t see feeling sorry for others. (call me a jerk if you want to)

Especially when it comes to areas in your life that YOU have total
control over.

Of course there are tragedies that are completely unavoidable, but
even then… you can choose how to respond to those challenges.

The most successful people in my book are NOT the ones who’ve
made it to “the top”.

The most successful people to me are those who have faced enormous
challenges and tragedies AND grow stronger from the experience.

If you grew up in a home where your parents only feed you fast food
and junk… you will probably end up obese.

This is NOT your fault.

But as you become an adult and you begin to choose what kinds of
food you eat and what activities you’re going to you…

…YOU can make new choices, totally reinvent yourself and your

Take one of my Strengthology students, Taylor Locke for example.

You can see a video of Taylor at the bottom of this website.
(he’s the humble kid in the blue t-shirt)

Taylor grew up as a fat kid.

Then he started watching my videos and reading different websites
about how to lose weight and build muscle.

After taking the advice I gave in one of my YouTube videos from
2010, Taylor began a simple diet and training program.

In less than 12 months… he lost over 100 pounds of fat!

Imagine, just from taking the advice that I gave in a single 4 minute
video this kid changed his life.

Not only that, he also decided to dedicate his life to supporting
other people in becoming the strongest version of themselves too!

That is why he attended my Layer 1 Strengthology Certification
earlier this year to become one of only 12 such coaches in the world.

What about you?

Do you feel sorry for yourself about not becoming your best?

What is your excuse for living below your potential?

Should I feel compassion towards you?

OR… can you do what Taylor did, and change the path of your life.
Become the stronger YOU…

…and inspire others to do the same thing.

You only live once.

It’s up to you.

Join the winners circle…

here -> http://strengthology.net/strengthology-coach-level-1/

Grow Stronger,
Elliott Hulse

Comments 10

  1. Elliot,

    I am a big fan of yours, and I look forward to your personal offerings on life. I practice meditation myself and I cannot see how someone like you who practices meditation doesn’t grasp the sickness of the mind that we all suffer from…

    If the fish lives and dies in the ocean, what is it’s knowledge of water?

    Likewise, if a human is born into this world in delusion, ignorance, samsara, whatever you want to call it, I know (personally) how hard it is to “wake up,” even to the fact that you are ignorant! Let alone endeavoring to lose your ignorance.

    People like us who have decided started on our journey to mindfulness, clarity, or the strongest version of ourselves, are rare! Often I feel that it is only a few who truly are willing to surrender and find their own truths.

    So what in your experiences have made you feel that these people who are impoverished have any choice in the matter? I am not promoting “hand-outs,” but Jon Kabat-Zinn in Wherever You Go There You Are (great book btw) put it something like: If someone hit you with a stick you do not get angry at the stick or the arm that swung it, but at the person. If you continue on this vein then you could be angry at their parents, then at the world for being so unkind, but aren’t you part of the world? Therefore I don’t believe there is any cause or effect in this chain of phenomena, so I don’t feel like I can blame people for being in a situation and they’re best is all they can because they are not “seekers,” like us.

    Basically, if people are fishes in a sea and blind to their environment, are they not doing the best they can already? If you are a product of your environment and that means you will never be able to become what would have been the strongest version of yourself then how is it that people who are wiser and have grown stronger cannot help them and love them and feel compassion towards them?

    If I thought that you were an unthinking person or you were acting out of some supposed “deep wisdom,” then I would not comment. But the thing is, I often digest your offerings and find them to ring true to myself. I respect your opinions even if I don’t agree and I look forward to your genuine Elliot Hulse view on this subject.

    Your friend,

    -Austin S.

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    First, this is an area where I am torn. I have no truly formed opinion either way… I don’t think I ever will.

    But this is how I see it.

    “Compassion” is one of those religious catch-phrases for meditators, namely Buddhists.

    Compassion, or with-passion, means to be “with” someone in “passion” or strong feelings.

    That feeling we choose to be WITH someone in, need not be one of pity. Yet that is what most compassionate people choose feel. They are WITH that individual in a strong feeling of PITY.

    Pity is a strange thing because it might cause you to reach out to someone in a charitable manner, but the sentiment is wrought with arrogance. To pity someone is to place them below you.

    The fact is that EVERYTHING you see me do is out of compassion. (with, in passion)

    But my idea is a bit different.

    Today, we are more WITH each other more than ever before. Because of the internet we are becoming closer and closer to one another. In many ways we are more together than ever.

    This proximity allows ideas to spread like viruses!

    We are no longer immune to the the spread of ideas. If you can read, if you have a television, a radio… and especially if you have access to the internet, you are bound to come across a myriad of new and expansive ideas.

    So the “fish bowel” that you mentioned is far more potent than just water, it has ideas in it. And IDEAS become a part of you, just like the water is such a part of the fish that he has no knowledge of it.

    What I do is com-passion, but it is different than WITH-PITY.

    My compassion is WITH-POWER.

    I choose to stand next to my friends, not above them, and point to the ideas in “the water” and say, “Look, we can do this. It’s only an idea right now, but we can make it real.”

    Now I am truly WITH you, and together we can fuel the passion for awareness and growth.

    My energy is BIG. I have a lot of it to share, so many times I spill it over onto my friend so that he can feel it and use it too.

    This is my compassion. This is my being with you in passion.

    Thanks for helping me think this one through :)


  3. I really appreciate this and I find it so true! I am a student in a program at my school called World Discovery Seminar, where as a class, we digest primary source documents throughout history to discover the “why’s” instead of “how’s” of whatever subject it is we happen to be studying then (it’s a 4 year program.) we follow the Paideia process and are influenced heavily by Socrates and the teachings of Plato and Aristotle. Through this program, questions seem to progress from clarifications of the text to contemplating human nature. Most of your ideas and lessons correlate pretty directly with the discoveries we make from one another. We do so by having a seminar (basically a group discussion) using our limited knowledge of philosophy and history. Quite often, I bring up a point very similar to this, stating something along the lines of “I support those who strive to improve themselves.” The students in my class usually don’t agree, and even the teacher implies that I (referencing “leaders”) need to be more compassionate. I was so grateful for this post because it really helped me to polish my idea of what compassion is and how to better articulate my thoughts on how I believe people should aspire to help themselves. Thank you so much!! You are amazing.

  4. hi

    i´m a karate instructor in iceland and studying how to be a personal trainer (from guys who are chek institute graduates and physical therapists) i was a fat kid and have worked with alot of fat kids now i´m a black belt and a deadlifting beast. my experiences as a kid with weight struggling has helped me to help kids that i train today with the same issues. what i see in my teaching is that these kids are often afraid to try. because they have often been bullied and they know if nobody sees them try nobody will pick on them, so they basically try to stay unnoticed and introvert.
    kids like this don´t need sympathy, they need someone to push them in a constructive way to become as you would put it the strongest version of themselves also they need someone who will protect them from the bullies when they are becoming stronger as this can sometimes be embarrassing for them.
    what i hoped to explain by this post is that kids who are overweight need understanding and encouragement not sympathy but if we just yell at them then nothing happens (i know you weren´t saying that just making a point :) )and like you said it´s the parents fault not theirs (i´ve gone as far as to ask parents what they are feeding their kids this sometimes goes bad)

    also i wanted to thank you watching your videos helped me to man the fuck up and apply to this course that i´m taking now which is known to be the best most intense personal training course in iceland (180 applied 70 got in) and learning this stuff for real is the most fun i´ve had in years

    best regards

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    Wow! Yes. you are living The Mission…. “grow stronger and inspire others!”

    Thanks for sharing Villi

    And good luck with the PT course, it sounds awesome.

  6. I agree with the point of not feeling sorry, or bad for them, I grew up and still, have a massively obese family, I am no longer on the plus size, in fact in the past 8 months I’ve done a complete turn around, I went from 210 lbs to 145, and am in a “BULK” to gain weight, up to 155 lbs, my family being so large, made me comfortable with being fat because, that’s how EVERYONE was so I wanted to fit in, anyway long story short, I get to enjoy life a lot more than I ever could as a fat person, because I made the choice to get healthier and as a side note, I eat like 10 times more food now than I ever ate as a fat person, HAHA!

    Thanks Elliot for posting videos and the blogs, etc, they help me greatly on my journey to becoming a physic fitness model!

  7. Thank’s for the shout out elliott, it’s true once you wake up and realize that the quality of your life is depended on the actions you take there’s really nothing you can’t accomplish.

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  9. That is a fascinating way to look at it and I love it! I guess I hadn’t thought about how fast ideas can spread nowadays.

    Thanks for the reply, you have (like you always do) fueled 10 more questions in myself then I have started with! Now I have to grasp what emotions I actually feel for others!

    Yours in growth and passion,

    -Austin S.

  10. Yo, Elliott! (couldn’t resist)

    Although I agree with plenty of what you write, also in this post, I also diagree with you on a number of posts, also in this post.
    This is a very complex and touchy issue.
    I have, and still am, a fat kid. Growing up I got bullied for it. I’ve changed my diet, dropped 25 kilos (the hell with imperial, metric FTW!) and now use Gironda’s 8×8 set-up in my weight training.
    But oevr to the fat kids. And the fat adults.
    Yes, this is an area where you make choices as an adult. However, and this is where the complexity comes in, how is a person, as an adult, going to be able to make those healthy choices when that person NEVER has received any skills, knowledge and what not on healthy eating, making food from scratch? For many, economy also plays in. A couple of 99 cent cheeseburgers from the golden arches will for many seem a cheaper and quicker option, than buying some pasta, tomatoes, onions, garlic and herbs to make a good pasta and tomato sauce dinner. And they don’t know how to either! Check out UK chef Jaime Oliver’s series Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution on home cooking and school food, he made one series of each in the UK and in the US.
    But this issue is so highly complex, with all sorts of factors playing in, from biology and genetics, to sociology, economy and culture that books could be written on it… oh hang on, they have.

    Anyways, Elliott, love yer site, yer vids. Keep up the good work!

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