Show No Weakness, Men.

Jordan Peterson, as most of you know, is an author, ex-university professor, psychologist and leading voice in the movement to make men strong again. Peterson also has lots of enemies, which is to be expected. He is a strong voice for men and masculinity. These days, if you’re trying to make men strong you’ll, be met with resistance from “the mainstream”.

According to Peterson’s 27-year-old daughter Mikhaila, Jordan got hooked on some super strong, addictive, anti-anxiety medication.

“I’ve never seen my dad like this, he looks like a lost puppy”, she said in a YouTube video she posted last week. “He’s having a miserable time of it. It breaks my heart.”

Apparently, Peterson began taking this highly-addictive medication after his wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer.

I guess the pressure of watching his wife slowly die before his eyes was too much to bare, so he took the pills to numb the pain. When his wife miraculously recovered, Peterson tried to get off of the pills, but the withdrawal symptoms were too strong… so he got professional help.

The internet has been a-buzz about Peterson’s situation since his daughter’s revelation. There seems to be a lot of support for Peterson coming from his fanbase, but not everyone has been so forgiving.

I have compassion for Jordan though. Because, like all warriors I have been wounded in battle. So, sometimes when the pain becomes too much… we look for an escape.

I smoke weed… I know men who: drink excessively, eat excessively, fuck excessively, play video games obsessively, jerk-off, over-work, over-sleep, over-think, under-perform and do all sorts of dumb things to escape life’s inevitable pains, but sometimes… it gets out of control.

In Jordan Peterson’s case he took some super strong anti-anxiety pills. He became physically addicted to them. So, he sought help to get off em’ — good move.

Here’s where I think Jordan Peterson went wrong…

Mind you, Peterson is not alone in this…

Myself and most men get this one thing wrong and it costs us a tremendous about of power, authority and respect from others.

Since the 1960’s adult men in the West have been encouraged to share our feelings and spill our guts to girlfriends, wives and anyone who’ll show us sympathy… the way females do.

We have been convinced by well-meaning women and mainstream mind-benders that it is good for men to be vulnerable: cry, whine, whimper and complain. “Women want sensitive men, who are in touch with their feelings.” they say.

The truth is… Men need to be very distant from our emotions. 

It is NOT in our best interest to share, talk, reveal or express our weakness with women ESPECIALLY our wives and girlfriends. 

I realize this goes against everything we’ve been told as men (by our mommies and the mainstream) for the last fifty years, but it wasn’t always this way.  

In fact, because our ancestors believed it was good for men to be stoic, unmoved and strong… they created rituals and told stories that advised men on how to be so.

For example in the story of The Fisher King, Parsifal, the boy who left his lonely mother to join the ranks of “men in shining armor”. During his travels Parsifal meets a mentor. The mentor advises him…

“You must never seduce or be seduced by a fair maiden”. 

In the book HE: Understanding Male Psychology, author and Jungian psychologist Robert Johnson deciphers this advice. “The fair maiden” he says, represents the feelings, emotions, joy, pleasure, anger, anxiety, depression, sadness and longing that every man experiences.

This “feeling body” within every man represents the inner femininity of which Parsifal is to remain distant.

Johnson explains that there is nothing wrong with “feeling you feelings” per se. The problem occurs when men allow our feelings to turn into moods. This happens when we become seduced by the feminine part of our nature.

If men allow ourselves to become overwhelmed by the irrational-emotional element within, it will create havoc in our outer lives. Especially if we invite real-life, flesh and bone women into our problems.

Women don’t respect weak men.

Back to Jordan Peterson, his wife and his daughter.  Jordan was going through some tough times with his wife but he failed the test.  Instead of standing strong and silently enduring the pain, he showed weakness. He wore his heart on his sleeve, which might seem commendable, but deep down women hate it.

So, it hurts us in the long run.

No one wants to see a husband, father, mentor, hero and powerful voice in the movement to make men strong again… looking like a “sad puppy”. 

Whether he was genuinely sad, upset, angry or depressed does not matter. He made the mistake of sharing it all with his women and having them share it on YouTube.

Women are compassionate, they’re familiar with emotional turmoil and they like to talk. So when Jordan spilled his guts, his daughter shared their family’s pain with the world. She called him a “sad puppy” and told us how her “heart is broken”. She also shared other intimate details about how Jordan’s “breakdown” caused her and her mother to suffer. Not a good look for Jordan and a really bad example for men.

When a women is in need of emotional or physical support she should be able to find it with a strong man. 

But if the man himself gets carried away by being depressed and feeling weak he is no better than she. She is naturally very emotional, she is weak, she is anxious, she is sick, she is dying and she can’t even rest in peace because instead of having a strong, stoic, unshakeable man with the heart of a mountian she can lean on… she has a weak, whiny, child-man who can’t handle the pressure and needs a hug from his mommy.

Again, this is not a knock against Jordan Peterson. I’ve made VERY similar mistakes in my relationships and with my wife in the past. I’ve embarrassed myself and acted from a place of weakness, so I get it. We’re all doing our best and learning along the way… but a mistake is a mistake, so I’ve got to point it out.

My intention is to show you how men have been mistaken, miseducated, and misrepresented by the mainstream.  We’re taught to venerate feminine characteristics such as openness, vulnerability, emotionality, and tolerance… and to view male characteristics as toxic.  This way is ass-backwards, wrong and ineffective. It makes men weak and causes women to worry.

Women suffer in a world full of weak men. When a woman does not have a strong man, father, husband or boyfriend, she is forced to “man up” and take care of things herself. She may feel empowered by standing strong and helping her man, but rather than being his wife she becomes like his mother. This is doubly unfair if she is an actual mother, because now she has a grown man-child to tend to as well her actual children. See how sad and pathetic it is to be a weak man?

Men are supposed to be strong, so women can relax.

That’s not my opinion, that’s a fact. Men are bigger and stronger than women. It’s in our DNA, hormones, biology, muscles and masculine brains.

With great strength comes great authority and responsibility.  It’s a man’s nature to provide, protect, lead and look after the interests of our women.

But it takes work….

Unlike physical strength, emotional strength does not come naturally to men.

For the first 12 years of life a boy will likely spend most of his time with women: mothers, daycare, babysitters or school teachers. So, it’s expected that little boys will cry, whimper, whine, and complain to the women… but once he becomes a young man the line must be drawn.

If not, he will grow up to be an addicted momma’s boys who thinks, feels, acts and expresses his weakness… like a women. If a boy is not made to have a clean break with his mother, he will likely adopt her nature and be useless as a man.

Men must not allow themselves to become overwhelmed by emotions.

You need to understand your emotions, experience and acknowledge them, but DO NOT become identified with them. And whatever you do…

DO NOT share your weak emotions with women. They don’t want it, they don’t know what do with it and it only make them suspicious of you. 

She might rub your back and tell you it’s going to be “okay”, but she will lose trust in you, lose respect for you and sexual attraction between you will fade.

WARNING: Women are not going to tell you this because it’s totally unconscious to them, they can’t see it. So, don’t go ask your wife if I’m right. You need to become a master of observation, objectivity and of measuring outcomes.

You will also benefit as a man, be a stronger husband, father or boyfriend if you put aside the opinions, advice and need for approval from women. I’m not saying to ignore women completely, but rather look to men for advice on being a man.

Share your questions, concerns, disappointment and pain with other men (like we do at Grounding Camp)… particularly older men, fathers, uncles, mentors who’ve survived the same battles. You’ll find these men have the compassion and wisdom to steer you right.

Immerse yourself in the study of being a man. Hire mentors, read “red pill” books, blogs, videos or attend one of my “men’s initiation retreats”.

If you’re religious, study the scriptures, as they are bound to tell you much of the same things I am. This stuff is as basic as “Adam and Eve” and it’s as scientific as the study of evolutionary biology. Men and women are different, it’s wonderful, but take heed.

Keep growing stronger men, and never show signs of weakness.

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES:
Grounding Camp: Men’s Initiation Retreat —> Here
The 21 Convention: Red Pill Gathering —> Here
Iron John by Robert Bly —> Here
HE by Robert Johnson —> Here
Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida —> Here