What’s The Worst That Could Happen?
Earlier this week I created a highly inspirational video titled “Doing Whatever It Takes” for all Strength & Wisdom Tribe members. (by the way, I am considering opening Tribe enrollment for a day or two before I increase the membership cost by 50% in a few weeks. If you are interested please let me know by posting a comment below or sending me an e mail at support[at]hulsestrength.com and I will take it into consideration… thanks!)
In the video I tell a very personal story about my challenges as a up-start business owner and how I came very close to living in my van in order to continue pursuing my passion and goals. The reason why I revealed this personal and sensitive story is because I wanted to show you the POWER OF COMMITMENT in real life… and inspire you to take action towards your goals, especially when it is NOT “the right time”!!
I also wanted to teach you about a very powerful tool that I use in order to “assess the risks” inherent in any new venture that I begin. If you are thinking about “taking a plunge”… either in your career, your business, your family, or any passion that you hold dear to your heart then this technique is really going to support you and your efforts.
What is the absolute WORST thing that can happen? & Can you handle it?
5 years ago when I quit an oppressive job, that was stifling my passion and creativity, in order to venture out on my own as an entrepreneur I had ALL the chips stacked against me.
First of all, 3 months prior to my departure from slavery Colleen and I had purchased our very first home. Our oldest child was only 10 months old, and Colleen and I agreed that we would never put our children in daycare… so, I would be the sole “bread winner” and she would stay at home to raise our children.
So here is a snapshot of the situation:
#1. I had a family including 1 young child and a second one that would make her way into the world a few months later.
#2. Colleen was supporting the family with the absolute BEST of her resources as a stay-at-home-mom and homemaker. While I was to provide the income to support our COMMITMENT of raising our children ourselves (the way nature intended).
#3. I quit a job I hated.
#4. I started a business with ZERO capital, ZERO experience, ZERO assets, (except my willingness to sacrifice and work hard) and only one client (paying me about $700 per month for training). I didn’t even have a location to train potential clients!
Now… here is where I discovered the powerful mental exercise that allowed me to pull myself and my family out of this seemingly impossible situation.
I sat alone in a park one evening where I was to meet a potential client (that never showed up), with my elbows resting on my thighs and my head hung down between my legs as I watched a tear-filled puddle form between my feet.
Then I asked myself out loud, “Elliott, what is the worst thing that could happen RIGHT now?”
When I came up with an answer for the absolute worst thing that could happen to me, I then asked myself “Can you handle that?”
I quickly knew the answer was ‘Yes‘!
At the time I devised a worst case scenario being that I would have to give our new home over to the banks; send my young family to go live with my parents, 40 minutes north of our new home; I would go and work as a day laborer seeking menial jobs on a daily basis, such as picking fruit or digging ditches in order to feed myself and fund my failing business venture, all the while living in my van.
As a means to avoid falling back on the trap of employment, I decided that I could handle living in my car and digging ditches as a day laborer while separated from my family for days at a time.
I became very comfortable with this idea. So much so, that whenever things began looking grim I would simply remind myself that “the worst that could happen” was something that I already decided I could handle.
Doing Whatever It Takes!
That is why this technique works so well.
I have used this time and again with even more devastating imaginings such as possibly losing a limb, becoming paralyzed, and in the worse case scenario ever devised in my mind… I lost everyone that I love.
And when I asked myself, “Elliott, can you handle this situation? Are you strong enough?” The answer is always — Yes.
I have conditioned myself to become fearless and to take action… no matter what the pending doom.
Now if the risk that I am about to embark upon requires that I may lose all my money and be late with paying my bills and endure the scourge of “bad credit”, so what? — I’m still willing to “Do Whatever It Takes.”
Stop for a moment right now and think…. What type of life would I choose to live if I knew with 100% certainty that it WILL come true?
Now ask yourself…. What is the very first step that I can take toady that will place me on the path of my vision?
It may mean ending a useless relationship; It may mean committing to a rigorous exercise program; It may mean going back to school; It may mean quitting a job that you hate; It may mean a 180 degree shift in your paradigm that literally changes WHO you are… and chances are that the thing you would have to do in order to fulfill your passion, is going to be something SCARY!
Next, ask yourself what is the ABSOLUTE worst thing that can happen if you take that action?
You need to literally create, in your mind, the most atrocious and terrifying outcome of taking action towards your dream… and when you have finally painted that picture, look at it and seriously and consider, “Am I tough enough to handle this?”
Here is one more, very resourceful, paradigm or mindset that will ease your fears and give you the confidence to live out the life of your dreams.
God created you to fulfill a unique role amongst mankind, for the short duration of your life. He planted this seed in everyone. We each have a unique calling. Some callings are grand and some are mundane… but each is VERY, VERY IMPORTANT!
God NEEDS you to do your work. He needs people who love music to play it. He needs mothers who love their children to remain in the home where they can raise them. He needs YOU to do what is in your heart… otherwise He would not have placed it there.
The passion screaming in your heart is your purpose, it’s God’s purpose for you. As our Creator and Father… do you think He would plant a seed in your heart only to set you up for failure?
No! But what He does expect is that you abide in His will. When he asks you to create delicious meals for friends, family and clients… yet, you continue to deliver mail for a living. You are living in disobedience.
Many times we whine and believe that it would be “nice” if we were to follow and fulfill our dreams.
But I say, that not only would it be nice… not only is it your RIGHT to pursue your passion, it is your RESPONSIBILITY.
Get over your fears, get over yourself, stop whining and do YOUR work!
What is the worst that could happen?